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Parenting Q&A

by Christa Bartsch

Preserving Romance inYour Marriage

February, 2009 

Q:  How do you make sure family living doesn't crowd out romance in your marriage?

A:     We moms can sometimes get so wrapped up in mothering our children that we forget to be a wife to our husbands!  Let’s remind ourselves which came first and who we will be with in the twilight years of our lives!  I encourage you to protect your marriage and love your husbands as you raise your precious children.  Here are some suggestions. 

1)  Always stop what you’re doing when your husband comes to kiss you.  Even if the kids are wanting our attention, it’s good for them to see you make their daddy a priority. 

2)  Be the wife your husband needs.  If you feel like you don’t have the emotional energy for this, thin something else out of your day because preserving the love affair in your marriage is more important. 

3)  Make sure there is time at the end of the day when you two are alone.  Don’t let the kids stay up too late.  If they’re “late night kids”, manipulate that by getting them up earlier in the morning or shaving down their naptime.  Your marriage is important enough to rearrange their sleep routine. 

4)  If you and your husband are sitting together, don’t let the kids come sit between you (not all the time anyway) so they understand that you and dad want to be together.  Your children will be more secure seeing you make a priority of being with your husband and it will start (or continue) a wonderful cycle in your marriage of you respecting him and caring for his needs and him loving you and caring for your needs.


by Christa Bartsch

February, 2009

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About the Author:  Christa Bartsch is a stay-at-home mom who lives in the rural Midwest.  She has led seminar workshops for women on marriage and parenting.  She has been happily married for fifteen years and is the mother of five children.  She also sings on the worship team at her church.

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Published February, 2009

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